The Book of Awakening: Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have … by Mark Nepo
January 3
“Each person is born with an unencumbered spot – free of expectation and regret, free of ambition and embarrassment, free of fear and worry – an umbilical spot of grace where were each first touched by God. It is this spot the Psychologists call Psyche, theologians call it the Soul, Jung calls it the Seat of the Unconscious, Hindu masters call it Atman, Buddhists call it Dharma, Rilke calls it Inwardness, Sufis call it Qaib, and Jesus calls it the Center of our Love.
To know this spot … is to know who we are … by feeling our place in relation to the Infinite and by inhabiting it.”
I have been very conscious of this unencumbered spot my entire life, it has exerted a pull on both my conscious and unconscious mind for as long as I can remember. From my earliest childhood I have always had an acute awareness of this spot and endeavored to identify its nature. This is not to say that I am on a higher spiritual level for this awareness and all of my endeavors. Quite the contrary, I spent most of my life battling with myself in this spot, in fear of what I would find if I spent too much time in that spot, in fear of having to recognize all the unskillful means I had employed throughout my life, in fear of the changes I knew I would be compelled to make if I seriously listened to what I already knew.
My entire life has been a spiritual journey, with “spiritual” being defined as “in relation to my personal relationship with and to the Universe”. Again, this is not to be interpreted as any kind of evidence that I am a highly evolved spiritual being; I may be more evolved spiritually than some, but I am most definitely less evolved spiritually than many others. It simply is meant to relate the fact that I am very aware of both my spiritual growth and my spiritual shortcomings.
In the reading for January 3 the reader is asked to reflect upon two things she enjoys doing that make her feel the most alive, the most connected to this unencumbered spot, and to further reflect upon what these two things have in common that produce this feeling.
I had three things come to mind almost immediately: meditation, awareness/communion with the natural world, and doing for others. It is during the practice of these things that I feel the most alive, the most connected to the unencumbered spot within me, the most connected to the Infinite.
At first these things appeared to have little to nothing in common with each other, but upon further reflection it soon became abundantly clear what traits they share. In the course of all three of these activities I lose, to varying degrees, my sense of self as an individual.
When I meditate, and I am by no means a master of this art, I have brief moments of complete clarity. During these moments of clarity I no longer feel confined by or attached to my physical form. I no longer feel confined by or attached to my mental formations, my thoughts. I no longer feel confined by or attached to the other beings in my life. I no longer feel confined by or attached to the physical and natural world around me. Likewise, I no longer feel detached or separated from my physical form, my mental formations, the other beings in my life, the physical and natural world around me. In those little moments of clarity I am one with all, but not defined by any.
I have moments of this same clarity when I truly commune with the natural world and simply let all that nature has to offer engulf me. In these moments, whether I am walking down a city street picking out the sound of the birds chirping and leaves rustling in the wind amid the sounds of traffic; or whether I am deep in the forest totally engulfed by nature with the sounds of civilization too far away to hear, I encounter that same sense of oneness.
Likewise when I am doing for others I have the same experience. Even simple acts such as getting a cup of coffee for my love can, and more often than not do, bring me to that unencumbered spot, to a place of oneness, peace and understanding.
It is my belief that what these things have in common is not as important as what I bring to the proverbial table when I participate in these activities. I fully believe that this sense of clarity, this oneness can be achieved regardless of what I am doing; it is merely a matter of practice. When I participate in these particular activities I expect to experience this awareness, and I do achieve this awareness (to varying degrees and for varying lengths of time) because I have practiced doing so. If I want to experience this awareness more often and for longer periods of time, I need to practice more often.
Meditation, for me, is the means of practice that has yielded the most consistent results and allowed me to experience this awareness, this oneness on a more frequent basis. However, I do not practice as regularly as I once did, and I have become a bit stagnant on my journey to full awareness, enlightenment.
I have, over the past couple of years, allowed myself to get distracted from my goal by my own mental formations/thoughts, and to stray from my practice. The exercise of reading this book and reflecting upon all that it asks of me is one of the methods I am using to help get myself back in the habit of a regular spiritual practice.